Blog Archive

Peace Lives Within May 2nd, 2019

The Buddha said “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” I wonder what the Buddha would think if he were alive today, and could see how desperately, almost frantically, so many of us seek happiness in external things, experiences, people and situations. Renowned Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron calls...

Where Do You Find God? Apr 24th, 2019

Which is to say, where do you find bliss? Where is your Truth, the sense of deep peace and inner stillness that lets you feel your gentle exhaling heart?   Do you find it hiking in nature? In the eyes of your pet?   Does it live in your yoga...

Ease Mar 15th, 2019

How do you want your life to feel? If you were given the instruments, what song would you play? If your life were a blank canvas, what painting would you create? I want my life to feel like slow exhalations and gentle symphonies and the glittering gold of summer’s dusk....

Cabin Fever: How to Care for Your Mental Health Mar 14th, 2019

By March, many of us begin to feel a bit tired of winter. We’ve skiied and snowboarded, worn our favorite winter sweaters and cozied up by the fireplace more than once. It seems that around this time of year, “cabin fever” starts to set in, so I figured I’d do...

Buddhism, Addiction & the Myth of Disempowerment Mar 13th, 2019

Addiction can be viewed in various ways – from a psychological vs. physiological perspective, to the debate between whether or not there is a biological basis for addiction. Through my training, clinical experience and the lens of Buddhist psychology, addiction is not a matter of biology. It’s not some flaw in your...

Happiness Mar 11th, 2019

What do you need to be happy? I mean really need? Where does your happiness live? Does it live in your bank account? Do you find it in the comforts of a paycheck, a job title or a dollar sign? If you need those things to be happy, then what happens when...

Therapy Session Mar 10th, 2019

Hello, sweet child. Have a seat. Tell me about your fears. Your anxiety. Tell me about your sadness. And your shame. Your addictions and your demons. Tell me, sweet child, why you feel so unworthy and broken and unloveable. Empty the noise in your head, let it pour out into...

How Buddhist Psychology Can Help You Navigate A New Relationship Mar 9th, 2019

The excitement, hope and sense of possibility that accompanies a new romantic relationship can be intoxicating. When we meet someone with whom we deeply connect we feel butterflies and excitement. We feel like we’re floating on a cloud and we experience bliss and euphoria…and then the mind kicks in. With all of its...

Being Alone Without Being Lonely: How Buddhism Helps Us Come Home to Our Selves Mar 8th, 2019

A lot of us struggle with being single. Whether you’re single by choice or going through a divorce or break-up, the ego has a field day when we’re not coupled. This time is often very fertile ground for our mind’s greatest fears and negative self-talk to plant seeds. The ego tells us stories about how...

Who Do You Think You Are? Mar 7th, 2019

Who do you think you are? Are you the asshole who lives in your head? Are you the sum of all the stories your mind recorded over the years – the tales of triumph and woe, of successes and (mostly) failures? Are you Fear and Darkness, inherently rotten and broken...

Mental Health & The Holidays: Tips From Buddhist Psychology Dec 23rd, 2018

While the holiday season can be an extremely joyful time, many people report a rise in stress, anxiety and depression during the holiday season. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) found that 64% of people surveyed endorsed having the “holiday blues” (defined as “temporary feelings of anxiety or depression during the holiday season”). When it comes to the holiday blues,...

10 Things You Can Do Every Day to Manage Depression Dec 20th, 2018

Depression is an extremely common psychological diagnosis in the U.S., and depressive disorders can cause significant impairment to one's life. While psychotropic medication can be very helpful for many people, clients often report unpleasant side effects, among other things. For some, medication never worked or stops working; for others, Western...

10 Things You Can Do Every Day to Manage Anxiety Dec 18th, 2018

Anxiety has become the most commonly diagnosed psychological disorder in the United States, affecting roughly one-third of the population. While the statistics are dire, the good news is that there are plenty natural, holistic treatments to anxiety. Below is a list of 10 things you can do every day to...

Anxiety & Your Diet: What to Eat & Avoid Dec 16th, 2018

A holistic, integrative mind-body approach to anxiety includes a focus on diet and nutrition. Because the mind and the body are inextricably linked, the foods and beverages you put into your body directly impact your mood. Recent research has revealed the powerful relationship between your gut and your brain, and...

What If You Could See Yourself through the Eyes of Love? Dec 14th, 2018

What if you could see yourself through the eyes of Love? Of pure radiance, of bliss that shines so bright it blinds you. What if you held yourself in that gaze, rather than that of the mind, of ego, of limitation and negativity and at times, even disgust? If you...

What Anxiety Does to the Body Dec 12th, 2018

Humble Warrior Therapy is a holistic, integrative approach to mental health, emphasizing the inextricable link between mind and body. This mindfulness-based therapy is rooted in philosophies of yoga and Buddhism, which both promote an extremely comprehensive notion of health. When we experience a certain state of mind, our physical body...

What Chronic Stress Does to the Body Dec 9th, 2018

Humble Warrior Therapy is a holistic, integrative approach to mental health, emphasizing the inextricable link between mind and body. This mindfulness-based therapy is rooted in philosophies of yoga and Buddhism, which both promote an extremely comprehensive notion of health. When we experience a certain state of mind, our physical body...

Letter to A Newborn Dec 5th, 2018

Dear Sweet, Beautiful Little Darling, Hello! Welcome to this world. You are a ray of sunshine transmitted into a human body. With a human mind and human thoughts and human feelings. Without these forms, this matter of mind and body, you – Little Ray of Light – could not exist...

Anxiety Tips and Treatment Dec 1st, 2018

Anxiety has become the most prevalent psychological disorder in the U.S., affecting about 40 million adults annually (about 20% of the population!). Whether you're struggling with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), social anxiety, a specific phobia, or a different type of anxiety issue, the points I offer below can help. Read...

Stress & The Power of Perception Nov 30th, 2018

Various theories on stress and the stress response exist. From a psychological perspective, stress is directly related to perception (good news for those in Buddhist psychotherapy!). Lazarus and Folkman's "Cognitive Appraisal Theory" (1984) highlights the role of perception in regard to stress, demonstrating that stress is a result of two...

Live Your One Wild and Precious Life Nov 28th, 2018

In her poem "The Summer Day", Mary Oliver asks the question: "Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" Wild and precious. That life is...and it's also messy and complicated and imperfect and heartbreakingly beautiful. The problem is, our minds get in...

Self-Love: Having the Courage to Accept All of You Nov 26th, 2018

Let’s get real. Let’s own our human experience – not just the shiny, glittery parts of it, or the aspects that we (or others) deem to be “positive” or “good” or brag-worthy. Not just the flattering photos on Facebook or Instagram, the snapshots and brief words that make our lives...

Social Anxiety: How Buddhism Can Help You Cope Nov 24th, 2018

Social anxiety disorder, also known as “SAD”, is a common psychological diagnosis centered on a fear of negative evaluation by others. Social anxiety is not about shyness or introversion, or even a dislike of people of social situations; rather, social anxiety occurs when a person is afraid of being judged by others,...

Depression 101: How the Mind Creates Suffering Nov 22nd, 2018

The Buddha said many things on our minds and thinking, including “rule your mind or it will rule you” and “nothing can harm you as much as your own thoughts unguarded.” He taught that all suffering stems from the mind and that through practices such as mindfulness, meditation and yoga, we can learn...

What Is Holistic Psychotherapy? Nov 20th, 2018

The dictionary defines holistic as “characterized by comprehension of the parts of something as intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole”. When referring to holistic medicine, the definition is as follows: “characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than...

Anxiety, Fear & Buddhism Nov 18th, 2018

So many of us live our lives in fear. We’re afraid of failure, of being vulnerable (and risking rejection), afraid of not fitting in, of messing up, of letting ourselves and others down. We’re afraid to stay stuck and just as afraid to get well; afraid of depression and equally afraid of happiness; we fear pain and...

The Secrets I Know… Nov 14th, 2018

As a therapist, I have the honor of becoming someone’s “secret holder”. I get to peek into other people’s minds and hearts and I am always so humbled by this offering. Each client gives me the gift of witnessing Truth – of seeing the human condition in its purest, most...

Acceptance, Non-Attachment & Surrender: How Buddhist Principles Decrease Stress Nov 12th, 2018

I recently watched an episode of “Portlandia” in which Fred and Carrie, discussing all of the political/environmental/social justice issues one can be concerned about, decide to just “give up”. While the video is obviously a spoof and meant to be tongue-in-cheek, as a Buddhist psychotherapist, I couldn’t agree more with their plea to...

Anger Management 101 Nov 10th, 2018

One of the most uncomfortable emotions for so many of us is anger. According to Buddhist Psychologist Tara Brach, anger can be viewed as a “wise discriminator“. As with all feelings, anger is an indicator – it lets us know that we need to protect ourselves from a possible threat. The...